Are you BORED with your life? Then THROW yourself into some work you BELIEVE in with all your heart, LIVE for it, DIE for it, and you will find HAPPINESS that you had thought could never be YOURS.
– Dale Carnegie
While I have never been a fan of Dale Carnegie (or at least I should say his book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” rubbed me the wrong way & I stopped listening from that point on), I loved this quote that showed up in my inbox today. Why?
Well, I’ve found there are 3 possible responses to finding yourself bored…
- You enjoy the space to just sit back, relax, and refuel for the next phase of your life plan
- You bitch and whine that you’re bored and act like a robot on a day to day basis
- You suddenly recognize the feeling you’ve been having is boredom and you use it as a catalyst for positive change.
Let’s look at the first one…
In some cases, bored is a good sign. It means you have eliminated enough extraneous nonsense and stress from your life that you’ve created space and peace of mind to make a fresh start; arriving at bored because you’ve consciously took action to cultivate a space from which to enter a new phase of your life or business. You didn’t just wake up one day surprised that you were bored, rather you have been consciously working to get to a clear space. Boredom can be the gateway to peace.
On to number two…
I don’t see number two as even a viable option (unless of course mediocrity and ignoring your life’s experience is your plan at which case you probably shouldn’t be reading my blog). If you find yourself bored with your existance day after day and choose to stay in whine mode and show up each day on autopilot, you have no one to blame but yourself. In today’s times where you can connect online with people who share any interest you might have (even to the most mundane hobby in the world), learn just about anything online or in informational products, and be anywhere in the free world within a day or so via airplane, you have no excuse to be bored.
And number three…
It may happen as a flash one day or little by little over the course of time. Either way, you find your current career or life as you’ve created it is just not jazzing you. You’re busy, involved, and full of responsibilities, but just plain feeling empty. You wonder where your passion has gone and can’t even remember the last time you were fully engaged in something hook, line, and sinker. In this case, you can use boredom as a signpost. A signpost that reads “Now Would Be a Great Time for a Change! Life is Not a Dress Rehearsal, What are You Waiting For??”. The sign doesn’t say, whirl into work, quit your job, divorce your partner, and go backpacking in Europe (although that may be your decision later on). What it does say is — use this acknowledgment of being bored with your life as a starting point to explore what’s next and design a life you love for this next phase in your journey.
So, while boredom often gets a bad wrap (has anyone here ever heard a parent say — “If you’re bored, I’ll give you something to do!!”), it most certainly has a place in the ebb and flow of our days and can be a great wake up call and catalyst for meaningful change.
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