The Dance of Making it Happen vs. Allowing it to Unfold

Should you make it happen or allow it to happen?

In my professional career I have encountered a few schools of thought on what it takes to be successful and achieve.

Predominantly it has fallen into two camps.

The make it happen camp.

And the

Allow, attract, let it unfold and magically manifest camp.

As a recovering hyper-fueled, Type-A, nothing is ever good enough unless I have over-achieved person, I spend the first several decades of my life solidly in the make it happen camp. To the point of self-abuse, hollow feeling achievements, and the detriment of relationships.

I was pretty darn skeptical of that second camp which demanded more faith, trust, and willingness to embrace the unknown.

But for a while, I dove into that pool with reckless abandon, throwing caution to the wind and waiting for all those fabulous things I deserved and was worthy of to magically appear.

Needless to say that phase came with its own set of frustrations: disappointment, lost opportunities (because I was waiting for them to come to me), and diminishing financial reserves.

So which camp holds the elusive, magical, mystical answer to attracting clients, building wealth, and meaningful achievement? [Read more…]

Where Your Head Goes is Where Your Business Goes

In the short span of a week, I had two reminders of the powerful dynamic of paying attention to where your head goes and eyes look. Your head and eyes determine where you will go, how well aligned you’ll be, and whether you’ll fall flat on your face (or not).

That can be a pretty important insight for your business, right?

The first time I was reminded of this I was in yoga class. As we were in a flowing sequence the invitation to look forward and out (vs down) even while lowering to the floor was an interesting one. After all, usually I look where I want to go and if the floor is where I want to go, that would be looking downward. And yet – if you cast your neck and gaze ever so slightly out and forward you not only get where you want to go, you do it oh so much more gracefully and aligned. I might also add with less effort (of the crunched up kind) as well.

As we humans are apt to do I left class and promptly forgot all about it until I went to my physical therapy appointment.

While deconstructing my squats and lunges with a fine tooth comb, the PT assistant suggested I keep my shoulders back and head looking up and out a bit more. Sound familiar? I did what he said and once again it made all the difference – stronger, more aligned, less struggle.

Look where you want to go

This got me thinking once again about how these simple principles can be applied both practically and metaphorically every day in our businesses for better results.

Here are a few suggestions I know work. Try them on for size.

Stand Taller

Physical posture matters even if you’re working from home and in hermit mode. Standing (or sitting) taller and looking out and slightly up will transform your confidence and boost your mindset.   You don’t have to be stiff, forced, or fake about it. Just be proudly you and own the fact that you have knowledge and expertise worth sharing. (Side benefit – it’ll help your physical well being too.) [Read more…]

Use Purposeful Tangents to Give Your Business an Edge

Purposeful Tangent - Making Cheese

The latest purposeful tangent: cheesemaking class.

What if I told you there was a secret sauce that could both give your business an edge and get you interested, excited, and feeling alive again?

No, I’m not going all rah rah “I have hidden secrets!”, “Blah blah blah stay tuned for a big reveal” on you.

I’m getting very real with you about one of my favorite ways to have fun, stay fresh, and do unique things in business. That thing is engaging in purposeful tangents.

I recently had an epiphany and connected what I innately do with the idea of purposeful tangents.

I was reading an article in Success Magazine where the author talked about only going to conferences that had nothing to do with the industry he was in. I thought – Eureka! That is what I already do.

What is a Purposeful Tangent?

A tangent is digressing off of a path or straight line. And a purposeful tangent is doing it (you guessed it) on purpose! Rather than do the same thing that everyone else is doing or have the same schedule day in and day out, you do something different, unexpected, and seemingly unrelated.

Why Do This?

Have you ever felt just a little bit dead inside from the boredom of the same old stuff? Maybe you’ve gone half insane from trying the same thing and working harder and harder only to be less than thrilled with the results?

Uh huh… I’ve been there…

A purposeful tangent is the perfect way to learn new things and break out of an emotional, mental, or “same old” rut. You get to surround yourself with people who have different and varied experiences and stretch your thinking (and yourself) in new ways

How it Helps You

Purposeful tangents help you personally and can really freshen up your business to take it to a new level. Specifically it:

  • Teaches you new things that are common in another industry you can apply to your business in a unique way
  • Revives your spirit
  • Gets you thinking differently
  • Lifts you out of any rut or preconceived way of doing things

And did I mention that it can be a lot of fun?


As I considered this further I realized I already do some of this naturally. I have climbed trees, worked with horses, painted, performed improv, and done all kids of activities that stretch me out of my comfort zone and usual way of doing things.

Every time I do something like this I not only come away renewed but also learn practical lessons I can apply to my way of doing business.

And More…

I plan on taking this concept even further going forward. What might it look like if instead of attending business conferences, I attended a conference in an entirely different industry? What if instead of taking a business training, I returned to my music or took a series of classes on something else entirely?

I invite you to consider using some purposeful tangents in your business. What might that look like to you? Share in the comments below… I would love to hear.

Need new ways of looking at your business so you can grow to the next level? Contact me for a discovery session and we will be explorers together on behalf of your business success.



Navigating Obstacles [Business Flow Video]

What happens when you hit obstacles?

On the river, sometimes you have to portage because a dam or other obstacle which you cannot pass safely via the water stands in your way. In business we hit all kinds of obstacles. So how do you navigate them?

You need

  • Clear guidance from someone who can help.
  • A supportive team member who can help you.
  • Resilience so you can quickly recover from unexpected challenges and get flowing again.

Watch on to learn more…

Get in the conversation – and comment below… let me know what you do when you hit obstacles?

Break Free of Obsessive Thoughts [Business Flow Video]

Have you ever found your mind going in circles and grinding over and over on something that concerns or troubles you?

Maybe it’s business finances, being able to pay your mortgage, a medical challenge, a sick loved one…

Whatever the topic, your mind just obsessively chews on what is bothering you.

Not productive… but how do you get out of this stress? If someone tells you to just relax or don’t think about it, you want to hit them… because it’s not that simple! So what should you do?

Shift your attention…focus on something else. This video will tell you more about how you can do that and get out of the mind-suck and back into the flow.


Tell me how this video helps you by commenting below!

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