How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

How to Say No WIthout Feeling Guilty

You promised yourself you wouldn’t overbook your schedule and then you found yourself saying “Yes I’d love to…” while your insides screamed- Noooo!

Sound familiar?

Between the barrenness of busyness, our innate proclivity to people-pleasing, and not wanting to feel uncomfortable, I’d bet that many of us have found ourselves doing things we really didn’t want to do or have the excess financial, mental, emotional, or time capacity to do.

You can say no, you know?

Yet so many successful women won’t let that little one syllable word pass through their lips.

Here are some strategic and practical tips to give yourself permission and willingness to let N-O out. [Read more…]

How to Know if You are Ready to Hire a Team

Are You Ready to Hire a Team?We self-employed business owners can be a bunch of control freaks.  Think about it, you likely left a more institutional job (think corporate, academia, etc.) for the freedom and flexibility of being your own boss. You wanted to be in charge and in some cases were adamant about never having to take orders from anyone else again.


I work with my fair share of (recovering) control freaks and perfectionists, and I would put myself squarely in that category.  When I am clear about what I want and why, I am particular. (My family would call me FUSSY…let that word drag out on your tongue a bit and you’ll have their tone…)

Being particular is not the problem. Being unwilling to let go can be.

There comes a point in every business where you reach a tipping point at which you must address the question “Do I bring on a team?”

What Constitutes a Team?

Many people mistakenly believe that bringing on a team needs to a look a certain way. It doesn’t. For the sake of this conversation let us define team as:

            One or more person(s) who performs tasks in your business that either you cannot perform yourself or do not want to.

So a team could be as elaborate as having full or part-time employees that work exclusively for you or as informal as a local high school or college student who helps you out from time to time. It can be anything in between or mix of all of the above.

It can cost you thousands of dollars a month or $50 every now and then.  However you want it to work, it can.  Creativity is your friend.

Are You Ready for a Team?

I was resistant to having a team at first but now I know the value it brings.  What frustrates me about conversations on this topic is that there appear to be two schools of thought:

  • The do-it-all-yourself forever camp
  • The bring on an elaborate team as soon as possible even before you’re ready school of thought.

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Goals Don’t Grow Your Business; Systems and Habits Do

Habits and Systems Grow Your Business

There is no shortage of cheer-leading around setting BIG GOALS in business circles.

All that RAH RAH RAH-ing makes me tired.

I’m not a huge fan of goals, at least not as they are traditionally set. I’ve written about my philosophy of setting multidimensional goals on several occasions: like here and here.

The longer I live and run my business the more I have replaced goal setting with intentions and experimentation.  Here’s why…

Goals are external and by design make you feel “less than” while making you susceptible to going all-out towards one thing over which you have no control that may or may not happen. Typically neglecting other important parts of your life in the process.

Sounds like a picnic, right? [Read more…]

Intentionality: Choose, Don’t React

I want to talk about the idea of intentionality. This means being at choice versus reacting. A lot of times people will say, “Well I couldn’t possibly take this day off or this time off. Or I couldn’t possibly carve out a few hours to work on my business instead of in my business because my clients need me.

Well they hopefully do need you and you still need to tame the distractions and create breathing spaces for working on your business and taking time off but you have to choose it. You have to intentionally make choices versus reacting.

For example, you can choose set times when you are going to check your email or you can check your email every time it buzzes and comes in and a client has a question. If you are firing off answers every time something happens on demand, the phone, the internet, the email…it’s going to be like a ping pong match that just keeps ramping up itself fueling a fire that never ever ends.

Whereas if you intentionally choose when you’re going to do what, to go with the rhythms of what’s going on in your life, with the rhythms of how you work best then all of a sudden, you start to see this ideal transformation of you being in control.

You being in charge in the driver seat of how you work and getting to those priorities that matter most for you. A lot of times people don’t know where to start or they just want to know that they have a friend in their corner and that’s why people partner with me. I help them get systems in place, have that moral support for making a big change. I offer really practical tools so you do not have to work so hard at it.

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What’s on Your NOT To-Do List?

What is on your NOT to-do list?

Everyone has a to-do list a mile long these days. Maybe you have two, three, or four going at a time and half the time you cannot remember where you left them.

But do you have the equally if not more important master list called the NOT To-Do List?

Recently I was co-hosting a live Blab talking about priorities when one of the participants started talking about her NOT to-do list.  Both of us got all giddy and agreed that knowing what you should NOT be doing is just as important as knowing what to do.

Now, I’m not talking about a list two million items long of things you do not want to do. Instead I’m talking about a list of things that you are NOT going to do in your business. Meaning, you either delegate or release them (a kind way of saying ditch it or dump it).  The purpose of this list is to avoid engaging in low-value tasks that someone else could easily do for you and diminish the temptation to dither about on meaningless distractions. [Read more…]

How to Prioritize When Everything is a Priority

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